Away From Home At Home

I’m away from Holland again. This time for 5 weeks.. back to Singapore. I’ve to stay on for 5 weeks this trip because of a reason that matters a lot for our future. I shall leave writing about the reason for next time when all is finalized.

Today is exactly one week I’m back. Nothing change, it still feels like a month already. Being back brings me back to where we were more than two years ago. It seems like we are going through LDR (Long Distance Relationship) all over again. Although this time,  it feels very different, since our relationship has elevated to the next level, there is honest trust,  where we do not second guess one another.

Jos never second guess me, I admit, being the woman, I’m the insecure one. But that’s only because I care and man can be very idiotic when come to being sensitive to how woman feels. Well having said that, I’ve also learn much from being in a Long Distance Relationship but there is only one thing I have not master : the skill of living life without him. It just gets weirder! 🙂

Those LDR days, we used to spend 3-4 months apart, during those time, we could only text and call one another every day. Jos wasn’t a technology geek, so he never like being on Skype, he don’t have an iPhone, so we cannot FaceTime. As such, our face to face time was really little. It was hard, I hate being in a relationship but not living a life together. Life in Holland and Life in Singapore is drastically different, each has it’s good and bad, but I only want to share the same life with the one I love.

I remember whenever we meet after the 3-4 months apart, I would still feel a little shy and it’s like we fall in love all over again. My heart would speed at the baggage belt, I would check my hair, my face to make sure I’m looking okay. And when we meet at the arrival hall, I felt like my heart skips a few beat I could die! Of course, each time I sees him, I fall in love all over again. 🙂



My Favorite; taken in year Sep 2010 where we reunited and never part ! 🙂

Okay, enough of the emotional crap I’m feeling right now. I don’t want to stop but that is enough mushiness for one post! 🙂

Yesterday, 9th August,  is a very special day for me and all Singaporeans. That’s because it is Singapore 48th Birthday! So here is 3 cheers to Singapore, the little dot on the world map where I was born and raised. I may not live in Singapore for the next few years but I will never forget it’s goodness. I love my Singapore and I will be back!





Glitter Words


A Surprise in A Surprise

The memory I have of Prague is still vivid. I guess I should pen it down now before the memory wipes out from my puny brain.

Prague is well known for being one of the most romantic city in the world. Walking along Charles Bridge; watching the painters working on their art pieces & couples taking their walk across the bridge surely lights up that romantic atmosphere. Besides, I’m also really enchanted by the way they immaculately preserve it’s ancient beautiful architectures.

On the 2nd day of our trip, we chanced upon a small lovers lock bridge. I remember the last I saw these lock bridge was in Amsterdam, a really small one, like only a few locks. And prior to that, I’ve seen them in Paris and Venice. All these time was with Jos and every time I’m fascinated by the way the lock entangles upon one another. I would always takes tons of pictures. It’s just so nice to see! 🙂

Lover Locks.

Lover Locks Bridge – Prague.

Other than knowing these lock bridge are lovers that lock their love. I’ve no other clue how this is suppose to be.

The other amazing thing I really love is their “Escalator of Death”! Because it is so steep and long, It might send shivers to the weak hearted! 🙂

Escalator of Death!

Escalator of Death!

Oh, and I really love their Sugar Roll especially when it’s baked fresh and piping hot, it is delicious! You have to try them because it is oh so good!

Sugar Roll

Sugar Roll.

I know all of those above doesn’t sound convincing enough to be the surprise I was talking about right? Yes, because those aren’t surprising enough!

On the last day of trip. We woke up, have quick breakfast, run back up and started packing. Yes, we are the last minute sort of person. We like to run after time 🙂 After that, we went off to walk around town to grab one last look and then went back in time to checked out of the hotel but leaving our luggage with the concierge because our flights only leaves at 930pm. So that give us another full day to enjoy the city of Prague again.

Since it is the last few hours in Prague, we had to go back to the place we both love most…. which is none other than the PETHRIN HILL! We bought some food and drinks from the mall to bring along and took a tram giving our sore feet a little rest. I don’t know why but for some reason, the tram ride seems to take like forever. And when we arrive, the queue seems to take forever too! Strange indeed….

Anyway, we survived the wait. Jos was exceptionally happy that day. I recalled he was smiling alot. When we found our spot at the hill, I quickly take my seat on the soft grass and when I turn around, I saw Jos face beaming, kneeling with a ring in his hand. He said “I don’t know when, I don’t know how but will you marry me?”

The first reaction from me was : “Are you joking?” And he looked at me smiling and said “Of course not!” And then the rest I remembered was I kept crying & crying.

Now, allow me to rewind to the past, although past are not to be reprimanded but I need to clear your doubts about why I would cry.


In year 2011, while we were still dating in a long distance relationship, Jos send me a image like this over whatsapp :

Marry me Jess

Ok, now this is very embarassing but I will say it anyway. When I received it, I was almost in tears and ask if he was joking. And because he was busy at work, he did not reply my message. So I assume it was for real! The first thing I did was I send to my BFF and said Jos sent this to me. To cut the long story short, it was indeed a joke. I was so damn upset with him, I feel like I could slaughter him! Well, I didn’t of course. He apologized and that was that.

Over the years while we were dating, I would always tell him which of my friends are getting married and Jos would never get the hint. So I decide I should be direct. I asked him : SO we are not getting married? His answer was always consistent, “You will know when we will get married”. Okay, now I make myself sound so desperate! Although i am not an advocate for marriage, I do believe that is the only way to proof you want that person in your life for as long as you live. And no, I’m in no rush to marry but it just kills me he isn’t even thinking about it! I’m sure all ladies would agree. It’s just a girl thing.


Now, let’s fast forward to the day he kneel down. I don’t know how long I cried but seems long enough, with him still kneeling and staring at me in anticipation. He asked again: So is that a yes? How can I say no to a boy this sweet? And to top it off, he was the love of my life! I’m totally touched by what he did. Organizing a surprise trip for a proposal! I can still cry writing this down.  And on that day 30th May 13, I fell in love again with the same man. 🙂

The Ring & The Flowers.

The Ring & The Flowers.

And that was it. No wait, that wasn’t it. Next he took out a padlock which has air flown with us from Holland. I suppose you would all guess, we want our lock on that bridge in Prague! I didn’t know the rules before but now I do. We have to inscribed on with the dates and initials with the keys.There are two keys to the lock, we are suppose to throw each of our key in the water as a public statement of our ‘everlasting love’. And so we did.

Here is our LOCK.

Here is our LOCK.

Picture 463

And these are our keys!

This is like the most romantic thing ever that a guy would do for me! I’ve never had that but I have now.

And there we are, happily engaged to be married !

Thank you for reading! 🙂

Signing off, J

Flowers Everywhere!

So the yearly “declare your love” day is here, if you receive anything today, you are being loved! How Sweet! 🙂

By now, everyone must be out eating their heart out in restaurant with an unusually expensive menu which would cost much lesser on normal days, sending beautiful flowers for their love ones which would also cost unusually more expensive than it would cost on normal days, maybe also some expensive gifts just to express their love for the one they love. And me, at home – blogging! lol!

I log into Facebook this morning and my news feed was already flooded with flowers, flowers and more flowers. It’s such a lovely sight to see. The flowers on the news feed are too lovely. The immense joy of these friends of mine, can be felt through my bones and naturally put a smile on my face. So Sweet! I just have to show these beautiful flowers that my eyes capture the whole of today and still going….

Lovely Roses For Valentines Day

And Another 🙂

Nice Pink!

Chocolates! Oh my favorite!

Flowers & Bear! Lovely!

Just a stalk but still lovely! Thoughts that count! 🙂

Flowers adding some Balloons!

Now, Imagine the smile on the florist face, counting the cash they “Ke-Ching” (Sound of the cash register) throughout the day. The one day that they make 100 times more than the other 364 days. 😀

Awfully Happy!

I have to agree, sending flowers, cards and going out for dinner dates with the love of your life is one of the most lovely gesture between any loving couple. I envy. But somehow, I do hope I see this happening every other day. I cannot help but wonder, why does one need to declare their love pledge only on Valentines Day? How about the other 364 days? Ok, we have Birthdays, Anniversaries and other special occasions that the ladies receives flowers, let’s say what about the other 360 days?

The love of my life isn’t anywhere near to me today. So, call me sour grape, it’s fine. All I get this Valentine from Jos was a E-Card that says : “Hey love, happy valentine’s day! Love ya very much and one more long distance hug before you come over to the cold “low lands” – From Dragon.

One More Long Distance Hug from Muggy?

This one E-Card is good enough for me. I should take a picture of my smile reading this in the morning today. It makes my day! In retrospect, I remember reminding Jos not to send me any flowers, because it is crazily expensive to send anything on a valentines day. I didn’t think it’s worth the money. Well, Jos being Jos, he do not read in between the lines. So, he send me an e-card of which I am impressed! I do hope I receive e-cards every other day telling me how much he loves me. 🙂

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against celebrating valentines day. This could be a day to remind a couple to not take each other for granted and remembering she/he as your valentine, the love of your life or whatever that bring the couple closer. I just don’t think celebrating this special day must means spending money on pricey flowers or gifts. The importance of being together today and everyday with or without the presentation of an expensive gifts, an overpriced bouquet of flowers or an unreasonably pricing of a simple dinner. Celebrate Valentines in it’s purest form. A home-cooked dinner together, a hand-made card and even a self-planted sunflower (like I plant mine) 🙂 could mean a lot more than grabbing something from the florist and pay through your nose.

Let’s celebrate valentines day everyday, show love, express them freely, give hugs and many kisses because Loving someone is a feeling, an uncontrollable passion that makes one unable to stop giving. Take note – it isn’t about how much money you splurged.

Happy Valentines Day Everyone!

The Battle of The Two J

The alien is now almost ready to fly. If you have followed my previous post, the alien here I’m referring to is just me being a new migrant to the Netherlands. Finally, after 2 long months waiting, the Dutch Immigration department have approved for me, the alien, to make it’s entry to the Netherlands officially.

So, am I happy? Why would I not be right? Clearly, this is the day I’ve been waiting for, for the past 2 years. To be in the Netherlands was what I prayed for. I’ve been longing to live a life with Jos together and not separately. I have to be happy. There is no looking back. This is it, the life I’ve always wanted. The experience I’ve been waiting to have as an expat and no, no longer a tourist.

The truth is, I am also sad and scared. There are two J within me right now. And every night, the two J would be engaged in an argument discussion process. Fighting among themselves, trying hard to over right the other’s feeling.  It can be so noisy that it keep me awake for a very long time. And after a long fight without conclusion, they would both fall asleep.

Tonight, the conversation went like this:

The Battle of the Two J

J 1 – Oh Yeah! We are leaving in less than 2 weeks! How cool is that?

J 2 – I’m sad. A little confuse. I’m not sure if this is what I wanted.

J 1 – What’s wrong with you J2?  I thought we both agree this is the path we chose? We have jointly agree to choose to live our life with one man above all the rest.

J 2 – Yes, but…. My life was here. My family is here, my friends are here and my livelihood is here as well. All these I am going to leave behind for one man. It is inevitable that I feel a little sad and scared.

J 1 – Well yes, but stop being emotional! Everything will be just fine. You know it.

J 2 – But…..

J 1 – No buts. We came so far, we know this is what we wanted.

J 2 – I won’t see my family on a daily basis. And my friends, will I lose them as friends eventually? Will they still love me?

J 1 – There are skype! Whatsapp! Tango! Come on, there is technology to connect us. And yes, your family and friends still loves you.

J 2 – But I will miss them very much.

J 1 – Of course we will, but they will be very happy for us because they know we have choose the life we wanted. And not forgetting, our family and friends will have an excuse to visit Europe!

J 2 – Why are you so emotionless? How did you do that?

J 1 – Well, then just stop thinking and let me do the thinking. Only positive thoughts can bring positive results.

J 2 – But, u are selfish and cold!

J 1 – That’s how life is, we have our life to live and so does everyone else. No one owes you a living, we have to plan our future happiness.

J 2 – 😦 tears rolling ….

J1 – OK, forget it. Let’s just stay where we are and forget about the move.

J2 – *Tears stop* I can’t do that! I want to be with Jos and continue our adventure!

J1 – All right then, I rest my case….

J2 – 😦

So yes, every night, the conversation between the two J battling within me. There isn’t a clear conclusion of what should be and not be. This is the time of a feeling commonly known as “the mixed” feeling. You feel happy on one hand and on the other you feel sad. This is also commonly known as “we cannot have the cake and eat it too”.

The two Jess


If I should search deeper within myself,  I do know what I had struggled for all this time and what I really yearn for and yes, moving to the Netherlands is part of a life time experience. Besides having the blessing of being with the one I love, I have the opportunity to see and learn new experiences. The different culture, the language and most of all, I’d really like to travel the whole of EU, if at all possible.

I know the battle of the two J will go on and on until the day I land in the Netherlands. By that time, I reckon, they would be too busy to have any time for arguments, all they want might be to fall asleep quickly so that they are awake fresh next morning for a brand new day of adventure.

Good Luck J and all the best to the new chapter of your life.  Love, J

The Legend of A Dragon & His Pig

In 2 days it will be the Dragon Year of the Chinese Lunar Calendar. Which also means we have live another twelve full moons and if one full moon is approximately 29 days, well, then we have stayed alive for another 365 days +/-

Before I go on with the legend of the dragon and it’s pig, here is a brief introduction of the Asian Culture and its Calendar being different from others. Well, the Chinese calendar combines the lunar and solar systems together. The Year and Day cycles use the solar system. However, there are two different Month cycles in the Chinese calendar. One uses the lunar system and the other uses the solar system. In the lunar system of Month, the new moon day is the first day of a lunar month. The length of a lunar month is the length of time between two new moon days

The year begins at the beginning of the second moon, after the winter solstice (in the middle of January; at the beginning of February). The lunar year account twelve the moons and a lunar month lasts 29 and a half days.

The lunar year are represented by animals and all of us are born in the year of one animal or another. The cycle start with the year of the Rat and then the cow, the tiger, the rabbit and so on. You will be able to relate this to the below picture in clockwise directions. And each time you celebrate your own animal year, you will be 12 years older!

The Lunar Calender & Its Representing Animals

Jos happen to be born in the year of the Dragon and me the year of the Pig. I’m a believer of astrology, not completely but it helps as a guidelines on compatibility of two animals and it’s characteristics. Well, just for fun at least. There are some truth in these and we can choose to believe or ignore when the truth turns ugly.

That's Me!

According to the Astrology of me being a pig, there are the good
and bad.

And here are the GOOD :
sensible, sensual and sensitive, sweetly naive, caring, self
sacrificing, erudite, talented, open-handed, candid, outgoing,
amusing, charitable, obliging, graciously hospitable and virtuous.
(Ahem, I can’t help but agree to the above positive traits :D)

And the BAD:
hot-tempered, pessimistic, outrageously epicurean, earthy to a
fault, sardonic, snobbish, snide, authoritarian, competitive,
know-it-all, stingy, victimized and sometimes downright
criminally mad at the world.
(Well, pretty accurate as well of which I’m not proud of.

Pigs in general are more comfortable giving of their own time or attention than they are to ask others for it. “Its better to give than to receive” would probably be the Pig’s motto.  They do not find asking for help an easy task and would rather carry the burden themselves. Pigs will do anything they can to maintain a sense of peace among family or friends. This can lead to a tendency to be taken advantage of, but Pigs basically forgive and forget everything. They are compassionate souls who simply want to keep the peace. 🙂

That's Jos!

And now, a introduction to the fiery Dragon which I so love! A
note to these comments: I didn’t write them.  

The GOOD: 
vibrant, magnanimous, charismatic, principled, self-sufficient, discriminating, compelling, sentimental, accomplished, noble-hearted, healthy and prodigiously shrewd.
(I cannot agree enough to almost everything!)

The BAD:
bombastic, dissatisfied, ruthless, demanding, opinionated, mawkish, egocentric, defensive, power-mad, foolhardy, willful and pompous.
(I prefer to not be judgemental but Jos can be ruthless sometimes,
somehow I feel, it’s better to be ruthless and outright than play
the game and hurt someone unknowingly.)

Dragons are the free spirits of the Zodiac. Conformation is a Dragon’s curse. Rules and regulations are made for other people. Restrictions blow out the creative spark that is ready to flame into life. Dragons must be free and uninhibited. The Dragon is a beautiful creature, colorful and flamboyant. An extroverted bundle of energy, gifted and utterly irrepressible, everything Dragons do is on a grand scale – big ideas, ornate gestures, extreme ambitions. However, this behavior is natural and isn’t meant for show. Because they are confident, fearless in the face of challenge, they are almost inevitably successful. Dragons usually make it to the top.

To find out what your chinese horoscope tells you, go to :

I’ve read these notes and write ups umpteen times, although each time it says a dragon and a pig makes a perfect couple, I cannot help but wonder what makes a total extreme opposite be compatible with one another.


Once upon a time, in a far away land, cold and misty. A happy and carefree Dragon was given a task to fly 6000miles across the globe to a strange, warm land – The Philippines, to do what he does best – socializing. Well, take note that during that era, socializing is the main skill one need to master in order to succeed and make a living.

Master Random: Dragon, I have a task for you. Here is a pair of wings, now go to the east, tell them how mighty the westerners are and bring back some beans for me! You have one week to complete the task but remember,  if you don’t succeed, do not return, you will be made to stay in the East for the rest of your life!

Dragon J : Well, Why not? I’m adventurous and I’ve never been to the east. This must be a good opportunity for me and a great start to conquer the World! WA HA HA HA HA! *Evil Grin*

Master Random: NOW GO Dragon! TAKE THIS! (Master Random pass Dragon J a pair of Wings and his clothed Armour, but he forgot a shield!

Dragon J fly as scheduled…… (At this time, the flying music start – to the rhythm of “I will Survive” ) 🙂

Fiery Dragon J started his Flying Adventure for the 1st Time!

At this time, Piggy J was struggling her ass out with her job being at risk.

A Sad Pig

She’d lost her job that she has worked for a long time because her employer has decided to quit their business. She was left to finish up the last bit of some transactions with a glum. Her life was at it’s worst. Everything didn’t seem right.

The working environment was also at it’s worst. She was made to work in a dump and gets all smelly and dirty at the end of each day.

Nobody cares enough to share a helping hand while she struggles
with a sad face everyday.

The Almighty Fiery Dragon J has arrived in the east with a big Bang. A always smiley and happy dragon meeting the easterners for the very first time was too exciting. He faces a huge crowd of other animals that he hasn’t met before. The many culture clashes and understanding came across his path but he conquered them all.

The Chaotic Assembly of the Animals.

Fiery Dragon J enjoys every bit of the adventure
even though it was also a challenge. He never fails to
take everything positively and his “socializing” skills
comes in handy in many ways. Well, he survived.

On the 4th day of his adventure, he received a
message via messenger Pigeon. He opened the
message with a light smile to realise it’s another
task from Master Random!

Dear Dragon J, we have an urgent task for you to fly
another 5 hours from where you are now to this place
called the “Singa Island”. There is a damsel in distress
and you are required to use a lot of your “Socializing”

Dragon J fold the paper with a serious smile and said
to himself – Dragon J to the rescue!

The faithful day came, Dragon J arrived in Singa Island feeling hot and sweaty. His eyes squint from the brilliant sunshine but he never fails to keep that charismatic smile. He wondered around for abit and landed himself in Piggy J workplace. The door pushed open and he asked with his famous smile “I’m here on a task to speak with Piggy J”

Piggy J and Dragon J meet for the first time and the feeling of “Love at first sight” spells in the air.

Piggy J was no long grumpy.

Piggy J’s smiled with a smile she hasn’t had for the longest
time when she meet Dragon J for the 1st time. She instantly
forgets how much her life suck at this point and how bad
situation was. She was totally enchanted by the positive
energy of Dragon J that came sincerely from within him.
Dragon J was at his best. He could not resist but work
harder than he should with his “socializing” skills. At the
end of it, he knows, it was – Love. 😛

Love @ 1st sight.

The duo, continue to “socialize” for a good 2 days with total enchantment for one another…. but that was it. Dragon J had to leave. He was told to not extend his stay in the east and he remembers that. Being a Dragon, his responsible instinct hit him too hard he had no other choice but to leave his undone personal business as it is.

Leaving Piggy J feeling worst than before. Now she has a work situation as well as a Love situation. Poor Piggy….. the cruelty of life sucks.

Dragon J arrived back in the cold, misty land missing the warm of the east. His life will never be the same again. Even though his energy and positive attitude never differs, he know, deep inside, someone far away is waiting for his return.


Mr Cupid @ Work

Despite the distance of the duo and the vast difference of the two. Mr Cupid did
not stop shooting his cupid arrow upon them. He was adamant that if Miss Piggy  can fall in love with A Frog….. A Dragon can fall in love with a Pig.

And so, the inseparable two continues with their long distance relationship with the help of Mr Cupid. They sends love notes to each other every day. And with the help of Mr Cupid, they were both given a new pair of wings so they could travel every few months to visit each other and keep the flame glowing.

Piggy J turns into a Flying Pig.

 Today, Dragon J & Piggy J continues to fly to see each other
with a plan to eventually ground Piggy J from a warm climate
to a super cold climate.
Yes, true love comes with a sacrifice. Dragon J sacrifice his
carefree bachelor life and Piggy J has to sacrifice the warm
climate and beautiful people from the east.
And they both live Happily ever after……
   ~ The End ~

Quick Flash Back & New Year Resolution! Not Really….

So the year is coming to an end and a brand new year begins. I remember last year, I wrote a long list of new year resolutions but quite honestly, I’ve did nothing close to any of my resolutions and didn’t really remember what I wanted to keep to. The only one I remember was to hit the treadmill and lose some weight…. I believe this could be a resolution of many, but that didn’t happen. Well I run, cycle and roller-blade sometimes but never religiously. So my weight is still at it’s best 48kg! boo! Diet can always wait….

Diet can always wait says Garfield. And I live by that! 🙂

So, really what is resolutions if you never ever keep to it?  Don’t bother making a long list if you know you will not do it. Resolution of oneself can always start at any point of each year. So really, this year, which is a very important year for me, I’m going to have only one resolution and that is – BE HAPPY.

If you wanna be Happy... BE.

I’ll tell you why in a bit, for now, a little flash back of my 2011.

Flashback 2011

Year 2011 have been good to me. I’ve been really blessed. I cannot thank God enough for the year long adventure. It wasn’t always smooth sailing, there are tears of joy, tears of regrets but everything falls in place after every trial. Each time the road seems rough and I feels that I can no longer go on, but a few more steps, the road is smoother again. It’s amazing how everything falls rightfully in place to where I want them to be. And I really mean Everything. I’ve learn a lot from the many experiences I went through. I learn to be stronger, tougher and most importantly, I learn to trust again. I learn to love again. That alone is very precious to me. These are my personal growth.

Knowledge is something that you learn and will never be taken away from you. I’ve learnt a lot, I’ve done the wildest thing of my entire life that I will never imagine doing. I’ve said this many times in my earlier blog entries but since this is a post of the many flash back of 2011, I will say it again.

1) Experiencing SNOW for the 1st time as an adult. Up close and personal, making snow balls. Most beautiful experience for an Asian Girl.

Snow Balls in the making!

2) Surreal experience of skiing on french alps – Les Menuires. (Been there, Done that – 1st Ski Trip!) On the side note, I was like the only Asian on that mountain.


3) Learning to make my very own Cheese Cake! (Never even dream about being able to make any cake.)

1st Strawberry Cheesecake!

4) Slept in a tent for a good 4 weeks, rain or shine! Been there… Done that! (Quite amazing for a City Girl)

Cooking in the wild! 😀

5) Visiting the 1st SUNFLOWER Fields and awe in amaze. Lovely!

Sunflower Fields @ Toscane, Italy

6) 1st Italian Opera @ the Grand Arena!

7) Driving on the left for an extended period for the 1st time! Stressed out but challenging! 😛

Driving on the Left Side.

8) Eaten the best Egg with Bacon cooked in the wild. 😀

5 Stars Eggs with Bacon

9) Watching a happy family grow 😀

Gosling! Too cute!

Ghoose - Still Cute!

10) Making the first Pizza!

My First Pizza!

11) Learning a new Language – the DUTCH Language!

It is not difficult, it's just different!

And finally, doing all the above with the love of my life! To me… that makes it perfect!

Year 2012 is going to be a brand new year of adventures.  where I will be travelling 6476.56 miles, 10422.62km across the globe to be live with the same love. I cannot think of anything I want to change or improve upon. I just know, I need to be a happier person. I learnt. The brain… well, my brain at least is one of the worst organs of my body. It has this ability to make my mind think of the most negative and assuming unhappy result. This very powerful organ of our body called the brain is really hard to control. But because it is a part of us, we have the power to control it if we want to! Whatever we place in our mind to think, is the result of our well beings. To be positive or negative, happy or sad. It’s all in the mind. And that is clearly the reason why I choose to “be Happy” for my new year resolution. I choose to control my thoughts, my mind, my brain. I will choose my thoughts just like I choose the clothes I wear. I believe, in order to see positive result, we need to be positive and happy. Nobody likes to be with a unhappy person, therefore, being happy is the key to every success. And lastly, a quote i learnt – ” WORRY IS A MISUSE OF YOUR IMAGINATION” so, don’t worry! Be Happy!

Don't Worry ! Be Happy!

Will now end this post with a big shout out to everyone! Happy New Year! I’m very sure it will be a good one for all if we control our mind! Cheerios ! 😀

Man are from Mars, Woman are from Venus.

Me: I’ve already drop many hints and you still don’t get it.

Jos: Don’t drop hints, just tell me directly.

Me: ……

Does the above seems familiar to many? I believe so, many girls goes through the same with their guy. They just don’t get it. They never understand. Why isn’t he calling me back? Why can’t he be a little more sensitive to my feeling? Why does friends mean more to him then me? And all these questions leads to Frustrations in a relationship and might even lead to a big fight. And we girls being girls, never give up trying. We keep trying to make him understand… by getting angry, by getting grumpy, getting upset and so on.

But ladies, its time you stop trying because man and woman can never be the same. If he is ever like you, you might want to re-consider him as your man because then there is a feminine side of him which can be quite scary, don’t you think? So, don’t try to change your man to be what you want him to be, he will never be and should not be. Naturally, because he is a man and he has to do what a man does.

I’ve had a few relationships before and I’ve learnt and even with my current, I’m still learning. The good news is each day I become better at it. I’m no expert but to survive a relationship, as a woman, we need to know what we do wrong as a woman as well. There is always two side to a coin, you can’t be always right. So here are my collections of tips from everywhere that I’d think its so useful to keep in mind.

Rule No. 1 – Do not try to change your man!

Why do we love a man and not a woman? What would we bother to be with a gender so different from us and suffer the consequences of being different? Well, Bingo! That’s because we want a manly man and not some wimp. That’s clearly the reason why man are made different from woman. The difference can be so vast that requires a lot of working on. But even then, isn’t it interesting and challenging to accept that manliness in your man? So stop getting upset when your boyfriend aren’t doing what you want him to. If he does, that is not manly.

If you should decide a man is not what makes you happy, then I suggest you go for a tomboy to ease the suffering. Because “she” will understand more what is needed from a woman’s point of view and do what you want them to.

Rule No. 2 – Do not depend on him to be happy.

Were you happy before you meet him? What were you doing before you meet him? There are surely things we do without our boyfriend and still feel happy. Think about what you did before he comes into your life and do that! If we start a relationship and rely on that one relationship to make us happy, we will never be.

Consider this, if you are happy despite whatever situation or negative thoughts that may bring upon you, your boyfriend would feel less stressed up being with you and thus makes a relationship happier and more lively.

Man are shallow, they do not think as much as a woman does. So no matter what negative thoughts you might have, his will only be nothing. Stop guessing what is not and just be happy even if he isn’t there or hasn’t return your call. You can choose to be happy if you want to be and the happiness at state don’t have to be necessary because of him. 

Tip 3 – Stop the guessing Game

Let’s just say, be direct! Honestly, how many questions marks do you want to put in your poor man’s head and make him lose tons of hair and find out he age faster than his age because of that balding head. So really, what’s the problem of being direct?

Man don’t like to guess (at least mine don’t). They prefer straight and direct question. But the ugly truth is even if you are direct, you don’t always get what you want. Not immediately at least.

Tip 4 – Don’t be the Girlfriend that ruins guys-night out. 

Everyone need space, time out from each other. This is important. I’ve heard many times girls complains that their man aren’t spending enough time with them. But really what is enough in a man’s context might not be enough for you. So eventually, to a man, it will never be enough anyway, so why bother?

Allow your man to hang out with his guy friends and stop thinking he will cheat. Its good for a man to have male friends. Breaking up his friendship with the guys will emasculate him, then really he won’t be worth having.

And when he is out with his friends, he might not pick up you call, might not send you a text or call you back even if you did called. That’s just being manly. But that does not always means he don’t love you. When a man need time-out, he really just need time out. So let him go, let him have all the fun he wants and he will run back to you because you are the one he loves.

Tip 5 – Communication

Did you realize we keep saying, he didn’t understand, he don’t listen. Consider this, did we understand, did we listen? It works both ways. But being woman, we want it our way. As for a man, they need time to digest every thoughts, every conversation as such they prefer to live it the way it is for a while. So they don’t usually  complain even if you didn’t understand, they wouldn’t say anything even if you are not listening.

Start Listening Ape!!

Tip 6 – Do not forget his virtue. 

Stop focusing on his flaws. Who doesn’t has flaws? We all have, and you might even realize, men doesn’t point at your flaws as much as you point at theirs. Try directing your focus at your man’s virtue whenever negative thoughts arise. No one is perfect, love him for his imperfection.

There should be many more tip than just these. To conclude my findings, I realize woman these days are independent and strong, they have their ideal and thoughts and stick right through. They forget that they are not always right, they wanna lead but they have forgotten, they are not man after all.

I’m not saying man has nothing to learn on the way to handle their woman. They do have, tons if you asked me, unfortunately, woman handle instructions better than man. Man improve at their own pace and do not need to be taught. They will grow up when they want to. So stop being their mother but start being their girlfriend / wife.

Signing out~ xo